Are you having a hard time getting your kids to follow your instructions? Kids have a hard-wired need for power. When kids don’t have a chance to exert their power in a positive way, they exert their power in the negative one. For instance, kids’ disobedience is the most common frustration for most moms and dads.
Here are some ‘parenting skills’ to handle kids’ unresponsiveness.
Get his/her attention
Make eye contact with your kids when you talk to them! For example, lower yourself and look him/her in your eyes to strengthen the communications. Put away your laundry or any work you're doing for a minute. Closeness is the key to catching your child's attention and an important way to communicate with them!
Avoid the word ‘DON’T’
Negative commands, such as "don't," "no," and "can't," will require your child to double process your words. Taking a simple example, when kids hear ‘Don’t run in the room’, they will have to think about two questions: What does she don’t want me to do? What does she want me to do instead? It confused them. Instead, tell your children what you want them to do: "Please walk slowly around the room." That way, your kids will get the idea of what you want them to do.
Having ‘listening activities’ with kids
Do you know some effective activities can help you develop your child's listening skills? For example, listen and draw. Drawing is always a great calming activity for kids, and you can also use it to build your kids’ listening skills. Describe a picture of your kids and share as much detail as possible while your little one is listening. Then have your child draw it as you describe it. This helps promote better cooperation and makes them listen to you!
Praise your children
Kids love praise from their parents. Raising kids who listen well ultimately starts with positive reinforcement of the good choices kids make. For example, choose praise related to your kids' efforts and achievements to reinforce what your child has done well. By saying what your child is good at, you will inspire personal greatness in your child. When kids receive information about something they do well, they become more persistent and behave better.
Family communication can be one of the toughest issues a parent has to deal with. Teaching your kids to be a good listener takes time, patience and persistence. If you make the effort, your little one will be an active listener and a good communicator.